You asked "who deemed what shapes are and aren't appropriate for a candle" implying that you were talking about societal values. You didn't mention anything about it being appropriate for certain people or relationships until after the fact. [ He did stop, to wait for Kaeya. ] You then implied most candles were shaped like dicks anyway so what did it matter.

You're also ignoring that Adelinde would scold you for gifting me this type of candle anyway, regardless of our relationship and that it was specifically for me.